My bestie, D. and Official Married Womanfriend Sounding Board (we all need one) sent me and a group of about to be, wannabe, and married friends a link to a post entitled "Marriage was NOT Designed to Make You Happy". We've all been having a lively discussion about it on Facebook and I thought I would share it with my readers. It's by a writer named Denise and it is posted on the
Black and Married with Kids blog. She prefaces the post with the following disclaimer...
First let me preface this post by saying that I in no way claim to be an expert on marriage. My husband and I have been married a little under four years and we’re still learning a lot of things about being married. If you want expert advice, talk to someone who’s been at this for decades (and let me listen in). I can only share what I’ve learned so far. Further, I assure you that, despite the tone of this post, I really love being married. However, I don’t want people to be delusional about what marriage is or is not. So let me share with you what marriage cannot do.
Being a Novice Wife (barely 4 months in) all I can say is "oooh, chile she ain't never lied". Read and discuss...
Wow, thank you for re-posting it and discussing it with your friends! It seems I touched all kinds of nerves with that one, even had folks saying that I was anti-marriage. LOL. Couldn't be further from the truth, but marriage is serious and I see a lot of potentially good marriages end unecessarily because one or both people aren't "happy." Chile, you have to make your marriage happy, not the other way around. Anyhoo, don't mean to re-write it all over again. Just wanted to say thank you and I LOVE your blog (the title is cracking me up). Peace!
ReplyDeleteLOVED this post. I saw it when Tiffany (Tiffanyfromhouston) posted a link to it on Twitter. I couldn't have said it better myself!
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